Recently you may have heard Jonathan S.Bean and I published a book called The Momentum Mindset. In this book, we offer practical tools, strategies, and insights to help anyone, regardless of their circumstances, cultivate a winning mindset and take bold steps towards a more fulfilling life. With expert guidance, readers can break free from limiting beliefs, fears, and self-doubt and tap into their intrinsic motivators to build momentum and take inspired action towards living an incredible life.
I wanted to share an extract from our new book around how you can diffuse problematic situations, minimise conflict and simplify assumptions using mental razors….
Vicki and Jonathan’s Razor (Page 113) – The Momentum Mindset book
Vicki and Jonathan’s razor Hanlon’s razor, attributed to computer programmer Roger J. Hanlon, states:
Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.
It’s a fun philosophical approach, which can be useful to defuse problematic situations, but we prefer to approach life with a little more compassion, so we’ve edited it to provide a rule of thumb to follow when on your path to escape velocity:
Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by an innocent mistake, or someone dealing with their own sh*t.
We like to work from the base assumption that people generally aren’t out to get you, or to make your life difficult. If they happen to cause you problems, it’s much more positive to assume that they did so either through an error on their part, or because they have something going on in their own lives that has caused them to behave in a way you perceive to be as bad. Please, cut your fellow humans some slack. Offer them help if you think they need it. And if they persist in making life difficult for you, then you can take a harder stance if you want.
If you are interested in reading more and gaining your ‘Momentum Mindset’ you can purchase a copy here online. The book is now available in the UK and Australia.
Alternatively if you want to discuss how you can improve conflict management skills in the workplace and hear more about The Conflict Dynamics Profile (CDP) assessment and how this can benefit your team contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org.